First we will discuss the improvement of communication skills and how to sustain growth and continuous development. You must have the desire to communicate effectively in order to place yourself in a position of continuous development. The power of effective communication will not happen on its own and can only truly be realized to the fullest when a concerted effort to improve is made.

Sharpening your listening skills

Sharpening your listening skills will bring you more respect and interpersonal growth than just about any other endeavor. People like to feel they are being heard. When you clearly listen to others, you are honoring the power of communication by investing the time to take in their messages.

Think about this for a moment: Whenever someone acknowledges the words you have spoken, you always feel appreciated and valued. This value is proof that others were paying attention to your dialogue when they’re able to reflect upon your words. A good way to see people’s self-esteem rise quickly is to pay them a compliment for words well spoken. You will witness their entire body language come alive. This certainly piques their interest in you.

The power of words

The power of words cannot be overstated. There are legions of people who place no value on the words they use, and the results are to their detriment. Whenever I’m involved with others who speak recklessly and without regard to the feelings of others, I find creative ways to excuse myself from their presence.

Oftentimes, offenders such as this don’t even realize the hurt and damage they leave behind in their paths. I call this a bad case of “stupid mouth”—that is, when you constantly let the misuse and abuse of your words create havoc for others, all the while escaping recognition of this. This is truly stupid, when we know a little bit of awareness and responsible use of words could right wrongful situations. There are other instances when intelligent people simply use the wrong words and the consequences can be equally damaging.

Strong communication skills also set the tone for success in life. All other aspects of development follow the power of diligently increasing your communication skills.

In order to improve the path of success exponentially, you must be able to connect with a number of people from varying backgrounds and learn to understand and employ the words they use. Although you will need to leave the comfort of the herd in order to get the needed variation, opening yourself up to unique personalities, different ethnic cultures, various religious perspectives, and other worldly influences will allow you to expand horizons.

The greater your communication skills, the more numerous the connections that are available to you will become. You’ll also create more open lines of communication with these varying opportunities and global perspectives.

Stay tuned for the next edition of JessTalk Speaks.

Have you left your signature behind?

As we continue part II of Leaving Your Signature, let’s be reminded where we left off from part I of Leaving Your Signature.

Leaving your personal signature will either work in your favor as a result of leaving a pleasing signature behind or it will work in reverse as a result of leaving a poor signature behind. We are generally looking to leave a positive signature behind which, as we noted in the last article, will help developing synergies to create the compounding effect.

This effect works much like compounding interest on a mutual fund. The power of investing in mutual funds and realizing compounding interest, versus simply leaving your money in the bank at less than 1%, is what makes the savvy investor wealthy over time! This same principle is at work when you invest in the compounding effect and its relationship to opportunities that translate into a high quality of life. The handshake theory is just as simple as it sounds; every hand that you shake is potentially a life-changing opportunity.

The time you spend building quality relationships to support your life’s mission will be measured as a matter of the connections made through the people you know and through the people they know. These connections upon connections are examples of the compounding effect.

The key to the ‘compounding effect’ is discovered when your connections introduce you to the people they know with enthusiasm and full support of you. Think of the ‘compounding affect’ much like reaping the reward of an investment that has outperformed the S&P 500 over the past twenty years with an average interest rate of 18%. You not only earn additional dollars with such an investment, you earn influence and bargaining power. Thus the ‘compounding effect’ is like building influence and bargaining power. Your attitude will be a key determinant in managing to sustain the synergies built between contacts and friendships while truly leaving them feeling good!

Creating a Word of Mouth Epidemic to Cause Your

Businesses & Relationships to Tip

Malcolm Gladwell, author of the book ‘The Tipping Point’ expresses something closely related to the compounding effect in a phenomena he calls the strength of weak ties. Mr. Gladwell tells the story of when a business tips from certain death to a company of great prominence. In this fascinating account you are taken on a journey by the author identifying a number of companies who fit this profile and treated with the antidote as to what caused the business to tip from disaster to fortune.

The point is made of mavens and connectors being the culprit for such tipping points. Webster’s New World Dictionary defines a maven as an expert or connoisseur and Mr. Gladwell defines a connector as someone who has strong influence, bargaining power and is very well connected. That is to say, these connectors know people who know groups of other people. The power of knowing groups of other people who are inclined to spread the word creates what he calls ‘a word of mouth epidemic’. It is this ‘word of mouth epidemic’ which is the vehicle that actually drives the success of a business to the tipping point.

When scores of people are encouraged to buy your goods and services as a matter of urging or recommendation it’s a matter of short time before you are blessed with the experience of the compounding affect and inbound marketing versus outside marketing. Simply keeping up with supply and demand become the concerns of the day. Obviously, this is a problem all business owners would love to manage.

The compounding affect is similar to the ‘word of mouth epidemic’ in that it too creates influence and serves as the catalyst for creating ‘a word of mouth epidemic’ about you or your business. Most of us have heard the axiom, there is strength in numbers, Mr. Gladwell’s theory and the compounding affect signifies that along with strength in numbers, the strength of weak ties can make you a fortune! The power to grow, develop and prosper can be found in the throngs of people you don’t know and may never meet.

Developing Synergies & Creating a Mastermind Alliance

After some time has been spent developing and maintaining a number of synergies and relationships with mavens and connectors you will be in the perfect position of taking advantage of the power of those relationship by creating a mastermind alliance. The concept of a mastermind alliance has been around for many years. I first discovered this concept from the best selling book by Napoleon Hill called ‘Think and Grow Rich’.

The consistent adherence to developing synergies through the development of your contacts over time will place you in the position for creating the best mastermind alliance from your developed mavens and connectors. As noted earlier, it is from your careful observing and nurturing of a positive mental attitude which will set the tone for creating synergies via meeting people and starting a positive word of mouth epidemic about you. What would the quality of your life be like if you were supported by a word of mouth epidemic?

Stay tuned for the next edition of JessTalk Speaks to gain more insights into the theory of developing your personal signature.

The Law of Attitude is an essential law of life, because your attitude is the command central for the communication process. Your ability to make positive connections with others will largely be based on your attitude and the perception others have of it.

The Law of Attitude is the great connection between how you affect people that you meet and your ability to leave them feeling good as a result of your interactions. In order to position yourself for success in life, you must begin with your attitude. I must make three key points before we move forward:

The Law of Attitude: three key points

1) Your attitude ultimately determines your altitude

2) Attitude affects your aura, which eventually determines boundaries

3) Extended boundaries allow maximum growth on your journey of success

Attitude determines Altitude

Your attitude ultimately determines your altitude. Think of it this way: if you maintain a poor mental attitude, you will deny yourself the opportunity to climb to new heights.

Think of an eagle, one of nature’s magnificent creatures, as it soars high above the ground. There are several reasons an eagle will soar to new heights. Firstly, it has a better view of what is below. Secondly, if it were to fly very low to the ground, it would have to work harder to avoid trees, buildings, even the land itself. Thirdly, it has options: it can go higher if need be, or it can descend to lower levels, but it never compromises its position. You must strive to keep your positioning, your edge.

What this means to you is: Do not hold yourself back from soaring higher because you have the wrong mental attitude.

In the game of life, you must sometimes accept that the playing field in which you are competing in may not be level. However, you can change things in your favor by maintaining a positive mental attitude. A key step in this process is to seek and consistently discover the good in all of your interactions. This will shore up a strong and positive outlook.

A bad attitude, whether it is justified or not, will squash your opportunities and eliminate you from the game. As they say, in order to protect against being denied opportunities in life, you should always keep your feet at the gaming table. Don’t let a bad attitude put you on the outside with people who matter!

Don’t let your attitude restrict the height to which you can grow—it can become an altitude wrecker! It is noteworthy to mention that so many things in our daily lives change when we change our attitude. For example, you are driving home from a long day at work, and someone cuts you off in traffic.

Most of us would respond aggressively and become agitated. We may think, “Perfect, this tops a day like this.” But if you sit back and change your attitude, does it mean the end of the world? Perhaps not, and you needn’t be quite so angry. In the end, you will find your day not so bad after all.

Take one moment every day and sincerely ask yourself, “How would things change if I rose above this and changed my attitude?” You will be very surprised at what you find. You might discover that slowing down and allowing the aggressive driver to pull in front of you was just what you needed to realize that you had been speeding. The intruder was a wake-up call that saved you from a certain speeding ticket form the highway patrolman who was hiding under the overpass you quickly happened upon. How would this discovery leave you feeling?

Stay tuned for the next edition of JessTalk Speaks.

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Have you left your signature behind?

Difficult people place hardships on themselves and others. They generally have personal regrets rather than personal satisfaction. Instead of settling for a life of causing havoc and unhappiness to others, take the high road and choose to make a positive difference in the lives of others. The truth is, we are only one handshake away from an entirely different lifestyle. The consequences will result from doing the right thing by that handshake or from losing a golden opportunity because of lackluster or poor behavior.

Growing your network of relationships ultimately becomes a rewarding responsibility. Your personal and professional endeavors are strengthened exponentially by understanding the value of shaking the hand of someone new—by leaving others feeling good as the stamp of your typical signature.

Your signature represents your unique style and it’s the manner in which you do things that others come to know you for. Leaving your signature with someone is like leaving a wonderful scent behind. Have you ever been in the presence of someone who puts on just the right amount of cologne, and after they have left the room, you smell a hint of their pleasant fragrance? You could make a similar mark by having a pleasant personality and sharing it with others. This is what I mean by leaving your personal signature behind.

Choose to develop your personal power

You can develop or strengthen your personal power as a matter of choice. Have you ever wondered what people think and say about you when you are not present? Behaving in a positive and giving manner will not guarantee that you are spoken of favorably. However, if you focus on creating a pleasing signature, most likely others will be inclined to feel positively about you. At the very least, you should never be accused of being difficult to deal with or of behaving poorly.

Developing personal power is the sign of true leadership. And leadership is influence. Should you already have a style such as this, or if you are looking to enhance or develop a pleasant signature, I’ll bet you would be more inclined to chalk up personal satisfaction points, versus personal regrets, for your efforts. Your personal power supports your character and lives on long after you have left the room. You become very memorable to others when you are resonating personal power. Consequently, both personal power and becoming memorable to others will help create bargaining power as your leadership capability grows.

You are only one handshake away from

an entirely different lifestyle

All of the best relationships start from a simple introduction or handshake. The harvesting of good friendships could not be possible without the fostering of new relationships. The author of The Craving Brain, Dr. Ronald Ruden, notes that we are herd animals. We enjoy congregating in groups. He makes the point that we enjoy being around those we consider to be like ourselves. Hence, this is the reason for country club memberships, ethnic neighborhoods, religious communities, Alcoholics Anonymous and the like. He further stresses that other species also believe in this herding concept; that’s why there are schools of fish, flocks of geese, herds of wildebeest and endless other herding or flocking species.

The philosophy behind the herding concept is not so much for protection against others who are not like us; it is to help us know that there are others like us around. This lowers our stress level. A lowering of stress in situations like this translates into a lowering of our dopamine levels. In this case, dopamine is the simple amino acid that the brain releases during times of stress which in turn switches on our fight or flight mechanism. Operating in a lower-stress environment relieves us of stressful situations and makes us calmer. This allows us to make better connections with both strangers and people we know. It creates the potential for heightened interpersonal relationships, which is fertile ground for synergy. The emergent synergy between contacts is the best formula for receiving maximum benefits through interpersonal relationship building. These benefits manifest themselves in terms of lasting friendships, partnerships, alliances and limitless business opportunities.

Furthermore, developing synergies create what I call the “compounding effect.” This effect works much like compounding interest on a mutual fund. The power of investing in mutual funds and realizing compounding interest, versus simply leaving your money in the bank at less than 1 percent, is what makes the savvy investor wealthy over time! This same principle is at work when you invest in the compounding effect and its relationship to opportunities that translate into a high quality of life. The handshake theory is just as simple as it sounds; every hand that you shake is potentially a life-changing opportunity.

Stay tuned for the next edition of JessTalk speaks to gain more insights into the theory of developing your personal signature.

Have you done your absolute very best today?

We are dying a slow and painful death from the disease of mediocrity.

Look in the dictionary; this means to deprive from or expel and ease means freedom from pain, worry, poverty or trouble. To have the disease of mediocrity is to deprive yourself from being free from pain, worry, poverty or trouble. I ask you, who gains from a life void of freedom?

The disease of Mediocrity kills by robbing us of our dreams and goals, while eroding at a high quality of life. It’s much like cancer, if unchecked and left to fester, eventually death is certain, but not usually before the time spent suffering has affected other vital organs.

Ask yourself, have you ever felt that quiet, unsettling lack of self esteem when you know deep inside you haven’t been trying hard enough? The Disease of Mediocrity is a slow, eroding state that provides a superficial sense of comfort when all the while you know you’re not pushing for what you really can be.

All of our lives are moving at the speed of light and appears there is no slowing down. Many of us feel overwhelmed by a life filled with too much, too fast and not enough time or resources to manage the load, so why try? We now live in the information age, an era of high speed communications. We just don’t make or take the time to build connections to the broad scope of information available to us. Have you noticed the lack of attention to detail now rampant in traditionally service oriented environments? When was the last time someone said to you, ‘have a nice day’ and actually meant it? Most people have long since left behind the notion of taking the responsibility of insuring you actually have a nice day, rather than uttering the trite words that have no back bone of intention affixed to them!

I cant’ tell you the number of times I have witnessed others sleepwalking through life, going through the motions and not being in the moment. Personal and professional development is paramount to living a happy and balanced life. In order to serve others well, you must first accept responsibility for developing and maintaining a high standard of effectiveness in getting the job done!

So you ask, what is the cure? Quit the ‘stop and start’ workout routines, no more weak or non existent life plans. People, do your homework first. Develop a quality standard for how you do things. Start with intention! What are your intentions? Why do you do anything? If you are going to put forth any effort, why not put out maximum effort and start performing better by design. What type of mental medicine are you subscribing to? Could it be a prescription of personal achievement, spiritual development, or how about a dose of mindset training?

Reverse the tide of apathy and carelessness and replace them with a strong ‘personal quality code’. Bring back the spirit of ‘pride in ownership’! Pursue excellence. So what do these expressions together suggest about how we should be doing things?

Frankly, the cure for the disease of mediocrity lies in the hands of the holder. A desire to do your best by becoming a good proactive reader of people and situations will put you in a ‘ready to respond effectively mode’. Understanding the needs of others, allows you the opportunity to provide a service for their needs. Stop wasting precious time having to redo things because of a haphazard work ethic that only leads to dissatisfaction from others, resulting in redoubling your efforts of providing respectful service.

Those who continue as participants in the world of mediocrity are screaming to the cosmos, “I’m willing to settle”. Settling is a way of telling yourself that you are worthy of less than good, less than great. You are clearly giving up your right to live a better life! Finally, consider how many people would have lined up to see Michael Jordon play basketball or Tiger Woods play golf if they had chosen to settle for mediocrity? When was the last time you called a friend and shouted with enthusiasm, let’s go catch the latest movie called ‘Meeting of the Minds, I hear it’s really mediocre? What I know is that it’s possible to discover that place, that personal place, where you know inside yourself that you are working to be the best you can be. Finding that place is what I call finding excellence, your own personal version of excellence.

“It is not the mountain that we conquer, but ourselves.” – Edmund Hillary

Excerpt from “How You Leave Them Feeling”

The following is an excerpt from Chapter 9 “Friends and Family: A Global Community—The Village Shines the Light” of Jesse Ferrell’s new book, How You Leave Them Feeling.

“You have a treasure trove of opportunities to develop other family connections”

“How You Leave Them Feeling” discusses how people often feel that they are not getting what they deserve out of life and how they think that they can not do anything about the situation. This book is designed to help people view their life and their interactions with other people in a new, more positive way, one that will help them realize new opportunities and see the world in a more optimistic and exciting light.

The key component of the book, which is well depicted by its proposed title, is for people to focus on how they make others feel and to consciously make an effort of leaving every interaction on a positive note. This one concept, which can be applied to anyone from students, parents and teachers to vice presidents and CEOs of major corporations, is fully controlled by the person them self. “I strongly believe that we control our own destiny,” adds Jesse. “By consciously focusing on how you treat people and how you leave them feeling, can affect what you receive from them in return. Essentially, we can learn to help ourselves by learning how to help others.”

The book will touch on many aspects within the focus of how you make others feel, including learning from other people, developing your communication skills, leaving a signature and controlling your attitude. Real life examples and a “how to guide” for success are included, all with the goal of helping people be the best they can.

Rather than harboring resentment and frustration over the things your first family did not or could not give you, find a way through the second family option to persevere toward the brightest light of life. And, rather than waiting for your second family options to show up at your door step, venture out and endeavor to earn the sustenance they offer. Your passion for self-improvement can only be matched by your perseverance of seeing the journey of second family gifts achieved. Passion and perseverance are compliments in this endeavor. You could not achieve your maximum development and second family acquisition without the team work of passion and perseverance. This is backed by proper planning.

You have a treasure trove of opportunities to develop other family connections along the way. In fact, should you decide to develop other relationships, think big. Continue to peal back multiple layers off the onion of life. At the same time, create maximum diversity in building your extended families. Wherever you are in life, declare to seek and behold the best second family relationships imaginable and vow to leave your signature on them.

The paradigm created from this type of forward thinking is the answer to all that you can dream and become! Anyone, without much effort, can become good at what they do or become good in managing life’s general skills. However, it takes a very special person to embark upon the road to greatness. Moreover, no one in history has ever become great alone! Julius Caesar had his empire, Jesus Christ had his disciples and Winston Churchill had the love and support of an entire nation and related allies.

All of these great leaders were supported by their village. They created mastermind alliances within the village and were fully supported in the efforts to become great through leadership mastery. These charismatic leaders gleaned light and wisdom from their village and returned that energy back to important others and their societies. The village shines the light!

Who are the members of your village? Is your village moving you in the direction toward the light of your destiny? Is there confusion, neglect or apathy creating shadows in your path? Is it worse; is it complete darkness, like staring into a mirrored reflection of crude oil? Are you standing still or regressing? If you can’t answer positively to these questions, you just may need to let go of your current village!

“Aim for success, not perfection.

Never give up your right to be wrong,because then you will lose the ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.”

Dr. David M. Burns

How are we to recognize success or know the formula for living a happy and productive life? Why isn’t there a roadmap for success?

Why are we not taught from grade school through college about life’s secrets and learn to digest them in nice tight little bites? Why isn’t life fair…?

Because if it were, we wouldn’t learn anything! Stop insisting upon instant justice, expecting instant gratification. Magic, poof, instant great life!

We have heard it said before, life is a journey, not a destination…

Let’s view life through the snap shot of a lady called Betty and learn the formula for living a happy and productive life from her journey.

Imagine you are sitting with a beautiful lady called Betty and picture a bright sunny day, with palm trees and dense vegetation (much like Jurassic Park) all around you.

Think of yourself lounging in the shade ten feet away from the Atlantic Ocean. The waves sweep in and flow outward providing the calming music of nature as its backdrop.

And then there is Betty.

Betty’s journey although blessed, is speckled with more than her fair share of life’s intermittent struggles.

She chooses to rely on the strength of tight family ties to help provide the light. Betty, a consummate thinker, a woman of great energy has a plan;she wants to become a National Director for Mary K products in Canada. No doubt an arduous task, Betty shifts gears and kicks into her ‘long-time-perspective’mode to guide her down that path. Suddenly, tragedy strikes in the epicenter of her heart, Betty’s mother, fondly referred to as Nana dies, quite unexpectedly and Betty loses her motivation to succeed in life or carry out her life-plan.

As Betty seeks truth and understanding, her emotions take over and quitting is all she can bring herself to think about. An unplanned life-play of ‘parent-to-child’ role reversal, Betty discovers her light and reconnects with that eternal candle burning deep inside though a candid conversation with her eldest son Derek.

She trusted Derek’s belief in her when she could not believe in herself and that strength paid huge dividends when she listened to the message of her eldest son, as he held her hand through a pivotal point in life, a crossroads, if you will… The message was simple and clear… “Mom, you have a choice, you can choose to be successful and continue what you have started, or you can quit”. “I know you are not a quitter”. She listened and thought to herself, yes, that’s right this is my choice, ‘Betty’s choice’!

Through the time tested ‘Universal Law of Accumulation’, Betty decides to become a little bit better every day.

She decides to do a little bit more every day and through the ‘Law of Compounding Interest’ her stock continues to rise. Betty represents classic beauty, inside and out.

She has an acute focus and sure intensity about herself. Her awareness is keen. When needed, it cuts through the target like a Swiss army knife. Fortunately, she shared her philosophy of life with me while spinning intriguing chronicles of life’s many lessons.

If you sit still and remain quiet, you can learn from Betty. She is many things to those who are welcomed into her life, because she cares.

She will stamp footprints in your heart. Although she has proven to be something far more than a survivor, she is thriving in life. Betty met her long-term objectives of becoming a National Sales Director for Mary K. She refuses to no longer do it alone. Betty has assembled her own ‘Master Mind Alliance’ and she calls her group…get this… ‘The Believers’! Her vision is clear, her path is set and by the creation of this group, ‘The Believers’, it’s more than just a name…

“I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me”

The road to success is not straight.

There is a curve called Failure, a loop called Confusion, speed bumps called Friends,

red lights called Enemies, caution lights called Family.

You will have flats called Jobs. But, if you have a spare called Determination,

an engine called Perseverance, insurance called Faith, a driver called Jesus,

you will make it to a place called Success”. Phillip 4:13

Betty lives her life from the heart and she is a ‘Believer’! She has truly touched my life and the lives of many others.
Betty has helped me rediscover my journey and it’s made a believer out of me. What is your journey? What do you believe?
Find your place in life through Betty’s parable, and strengthen your beliefs, discover your journey through hidden talents.
Whether you are looking for answers or helping others with answers, share Betty’s story with them and help them see the vision. Betty lives life from the heart.

Have you left your personal signature on EVERYTHING you do? Have you left a footprint in the heart of EVERYONE you touch?

How do you do things?

Are you the kind of person who holds back your energy and talent, saving your best performance for just the right time – then BAM! Waalah, you roll into action and give ’em your best shot – one swing of the bat and it’s a homerun out of the park! You saved the day! Feels great, doesn’t it? What a way to leave a footprint in the hearts and minds of all your teammates!

But wait, what’s behind that performance? Do you sit back waiting for that moment to shine? Or do you invest part of every day preparing for it?

We’ve all heard the expression “practice makes perfect”. Baseball’s legendary super slugger Barry Bonds adds a twist to that old expression that we all know is true: “Perfect practice makes practice perfect”, he says.

So what do these expressions together suggest about how we should be doing things?

Not even the strongest major league baseball slugger comes to the plate, takes one swing and time after time hits home run after home run. He has to spend all his time preparing for that moment. Every day of his life

Imagine Barry Bonds, likely baseball’s all time best home run hitter ever. How many times does he strike out in his quest to belt that ball over the fence? What is his pre-game preparation? Does he show up for practice late and leave early? How important might weight training, or a diet program, or mental or spiritual balancing be in his quest for that next home run?

Indeed, a man like Barry Bonds would be in constant preparation for that next stellar homerun. Sure as day and night he is focused on preparation as though every game was the World Series. He will visualize himself in the batter’s box with the winning run resting upon his ability to swing the bat with efficiency. He will hit that home run hundreds of times in his mind before ever actually finding himself at bat in a live, prime time situation. And, during both practice and performance, he will inevitably leave his signature – his footprint – on everything he does.

Consider Bonds as a metaphor for preparation and execution in your own life plan. Visualize everything you do as though you are playing ball in the major leagues. You have both opportunity and responsibility to do your best work – all the time.

Challenge yourself to upgrade your signature style; give your Customer Service Package a ‘facelift’! Those around you will feel it and this will even further help increase your own productivity. This is the Law of Reciprocity. I have heard it said, “When you help others get what they want, they will help you get what you want.” Start this practice on the very next person you come into contact with after reading this article. Give them a genuine smile, engage them in conversation and look for an opening through which you may WOW them by leaving a footprint in their hearts.

You will be amazed how these few simple ideas are easy to do and how they will change your life in a powerful way! After putting them to work, don’t be surprised if you find yourself hitting those balls out of the park not just once in awhile – but every single day!

Employ your time in improving yourself by other men’s writings so that you shall come easily by what others have labored hard for.” Socrates

Are you a victim of envy in your family? It may be subtle or severe in nature, but it will often times find a home in your own backyard. Regardless of your age, you have probably experienced a degree of envy within your relationship infrastructures. It may come from brothers, sisters, parents, cousins (biological or not) or “family” in the sense of those relationships that have been built over time and may be even closer than blood-ties. Where does this envy come from and why is it so prevalent?

I have heard it said, friends are God’s gift to family!

I would venture to say that envy is steeped in scarcity. When people feel like others have a better quality of life based on the physical or intellectual possessions they can see, it makes them feel as though there lives are somehow less worthy, or hollow and pale in comparison.

It is clearly a mistake to measure your self worth by what others have obtained. It doesn’t matter what aspect is being compared. It could be anything from intelligence……college degrees….or the big black Mercedes Benz with the butter colored leather seats parked in the four car garage sitting atop the highest peak overlooking the city of lights.

Instead, endeavor to improve the quality of person you aspire to be by acquiring these two key growth avenues; first, meet and befriend people who are secure in their self worth and second, by reading books that increase your knowledge of yourself! Dive head first into the experience gained from meeting and nurturing quality relationships, as well as prudently choosing your reading materials and declaring to read the good books more than once.

In order to rid yourself of issues of scarcity, you must always place value in areas of importance, mainly your self-esteem. Allow your unit of measure to focus on self-comparison, rather than on comparing yourself to others. Are you better today than you were yesterday? Have you improved and evolved on a conscious and continual basis? What can you do today to lift and maintain your spirit? These are basic, yet profound questions you must ask in order to take a quantum leap ahead in life. The law of accumulation says we advance in life and make our most sustained growth a ‘little bit’ at a time. By accumulating our effort to improve ourselves, success is certain.

Never, Never, Never Give Up!… Winston Churchill

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When we learn to ‘move on’, we live in the present while setting the stage for the future!

‘Move on’ is a concept that defines the simple notion of refusing to remain stuck in situations that no longer have any redeeming value in our lives. How many times have we been told to ‘move on’ from failed relationships, toxic friendships, ugly divorces, bad jobs, wrongful terminations and the like? Unfortunately, many people find it difficult, at best. They often times resign themselves to the side lines, rather than make a dedicated effort to ‘Move On’ from life’s trials and tribulations.

They choose to stay stuck in the past, unwittingly dedicating their time and attention to playing the dreadful mind games of could’ve, would’ve and should’ve. These games of mental torture serve no positive or progressive purpose. They are generally born from a guilty conscience or feelings of inadequacy. Whether you choose prescription or over-the-counter relief, the best medicine to cure these wicked mind games of ‘living in the past’ is to just “get over it” and ‘move on’!

“Fear, an acronym translating into False Expectations Appearing Real.” Author Unknown

Often, the chaos has come upon us because something or someone has changed in the general order of things. In most cases, we are quite aware of the changes, but we elect to ignore the subtle and sometimes overt hints when we feel change coming on. If there is one thing we can be sure of in life, there will be change, and it is inevitable. When we choose to embrace change rather than resist it, life begins to take on a natural feel. Our world and resources are constantly undergoing change. It is the natural cycle of evolution.

Those who master life’s ever changing circumstances will evolve and mature like smooth riverbed rocks where nature’s powerful water flow has softened the rough edges over time; morphing what was once a rough chunk of the earth into an accommodating and cordial surface. As changing elements reshape rocks, we too are reshaped by life’s ever-changing climate. Stop and ask yourself this question….Are there issues in your life where you are rejecting change right now?

“When you come to see the handwriting on the wall, you can discover for yourself how to deal with change, so that you can enjoy less stress and more success (however you define it) in your work and in your life.” Spencer Johnson. We must escape the secure feeling of wanting things to stay the same. It’s paralyzing and it promotes a lethargic attitude as we face an ever-changing world. Release the guilt, anxiety, frustration and stress brought on by the demanding rigors of life. Don’t allow your failed efforts to accept change sap your energy. Focus on living in the present while shaping the future by one painless decision…….to ‘move on’!