Have you left your signature behind?

Difficult people place hardships on themselves and others. They generally have personal regrets rather than personal satisfaction. Instead of settling for a life of causing havoc and unhappiness to others, take the high road and choose to make a positive difference in the lives of others. The truth is, we are only one handshake away from an entirely different lifestyle. The consequences will result from doing the right thing by that handshake or from losing a golden opportunity because of lackluster or poor behavior.

Growing your network of relationships ultimately becomes a rewarding responsibility. Your personal and professional endeavors are strengthened exponentially by understanding the value of shaking the hand of someone new—by leaving others feeling good as the stamp of your typical signature.

Your signature represents your unique style and it’s the manner in which you do things that others come to know you for. Leaving your signature with someone is like leaving a wonderful scent behind. Have you ever been in the presence of someone who puts on just the right amount of cologne, and after they have left the room, you smell a hint of their pleasant fragrance? You could make a similar mark by having a pleasant personality and sharing it with others. This is what I mean by leaving your personal signature behind.

Choose to develop your personal power

You can develop or strengthen your personal power as a matter of choice. Have you ever wondered what people think and say about you when you are not present? Behaving in a positive and giving manner will not guarantee that you are spoken of favorably. However, if you focus on creating a pleasing signature, most likely others will be inclined to feel positively about you. At the very least, you should never be accused of being difficult to deal with or of behaving poorly.

Developing personal power is the sign of true leadership. And leadership is influence. Should you already have a style such as this, or if you are looking to enhance or develop a pleasant signature, I’ll bet you would be more inclined to chalk up personal satisfaction points, versus personal regrets, for your efforts. Your personal power supports your character and lives on long after you have left the room. You become very memorable to others when you are resonating personal power. Consequently, both personal power and becoming memorable to others will help create bargaining power as your leadership capability grows.

You are only one handshake away from

an entirely different lifestyle

All of the best relationships start from a simple introduction or handshake. The harvesting of good friendships could not be possible without the fostering of new relationships. The author of The Craving Brain, Dr. Ronald Ruden, notes that we are herd animals. We enjoy congregating in groups. He makes the point that we enjoy being around those we consider to be like ourselves. Hence, this is the reason for country club memberships, ethnic neighborhoods, religious communities, Alcoholics Anonymous and the like. He further stresses that other species also believe in this herding concept; that’s why there are schools of fish, flocks of geese, herds of wildebeest and endless other herding or flocking species.

The philosophy behind the herding concept is not so much for protection against others who are not like us; it is to help us know that there are others like us around. This lowers our stress level. A lowering of stress in situations like this translates into a lowering of our dopamine levels. In this case, dopamine is the simple amino acid that the brain releases during times of stress which in turn switches on our fight or flight mechanism. Operating in a lower-stress environment relieves us of stressful situations and makes us calmer. This allows us to make better connections with both strangers and people we know. It creates the potential for heightened interpersonal relationships, which is fertile ground for synergy. The emergent synergy between contacts is the best formula for receiving maximum benefits through interpersonal relationship building. These benefits manifest themselves in terms of lasting friendships, partnerships, alliances and limitless business opportunities.

Furthermore, developing synergies create what I call the “compounding effect.” This effect works much like compounding interest on a mutual fund. The power of investing in mutual funds and realizing compounding interest, versus simply leaving your money in the bank at less than 1 percent, is what makes the savvy investor wealthy over time! This same principle is at work when you invest in the compounding effect and its relationship to opportunities that translate into a high quality of life. The handshake theory is just as simple as it sounds; every hand that you shake is potentially a life-changing opportunity.

Stay tuned for the next edition of JessTalk speaks to gain more insights into the theory of developing your personal signature.

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Tags: best relationships, lasting friendships, network of relationships, new relationships, personal power, your signature

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