When we learn to ‘move on’, we live in the present while setting the stage for the future!
‘Move on’ is a concept that defines the simple notion of refusing to remain stuck in situations that no longer have any redeeming value in our lives. How many times have we been told to ‘move on’ from failed relationships, toxic friendships, ugly divorces, bad jobs, wrongful terminations and the like? Unfortunately, many people find it difficult, at best. They often times resign themselves to the side lines, rather than make a dedicated effort to ‘Move On’ from life’s trials and tribulations.
They choose to stay stuck in the past, unwittingly dedicating their time and attention to playing the dreadful mind games of could’ve, would’ve and should’ve. These games of mental torture serve no positive or progressive purpose. They are generally born from a guilty conscience or feelings of inadequacy. Whether you choose prescription or over-the-counter relief, the best medicine to cure these wicked mind games of ‘living in the past’ is to just “get over it” and ‘move on’!
“Fear, an acronym translating into False Expectations Appearing Real.” Author Unknown
Often, the chaos has come upon us because something or someone has changed in the general order of things. In most cases, we are quite aware of the changes, but we elect to ignore the subtle and sometimes overt hints when we feel change coming on. If there is one thing we can be sure of in life, there will be change, and it is inevitable. When we choose to embrace change rather than resist it, life begins to take on a natural feel. Our world and resources are constantly undergoing change. It is the natural cycle of evolution.
Those who master life’s ever changing circumstances will evolve and mature like smooth riverbed rocks where nature’s powerful water flow has softened the rough edges over time; morphing what was once a rough chunk of the earth into an accommodating and cordial surface. As changing elements reshape rocks, we too are reshaped by life’s ever-changing climate. Stop and ask yourself this question….Are there issues in your life where you are rejecting change right now?
“When you come to see the handwriting on the wall, you can discover for yourself how to deal with change, so that you can enjoy less stress and more success (however you define it) in your work and in your life.” Spencer Johnson. We must escape the secure feeling of wanting things to stay the same. It’s paralyzing and it promotes a lethargic attitude as we face an ever-changing world. Release the guilt, anxiety, frustration and stress brought on by the demanding rigors of life. Don’t allow your failed efforts to accept change sap your energy. Focus on living in the present while shaping the future by one painless decision…….to ‘move on’!
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Tags: failed relationships, how do you move on, how to deal with change, more success, move on, ugly divorces
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Kasia,
Couldn’t agree with you more; love this article & the way it addresses “moving on”!
Marisa
This article hits the nail on the head in regards to “moving on”. When coming up against change I too experience the reluctance of allowing myself to move on and letting go of the past. However I can say when I have finally stopped harboring all the anxiety and fear of moving on and accepted the change its amazing just how freeing that experience can be. It’s not always been an easy process of accepting the change, but once you get there it’s well worth it. I will continue to strive to initially accept the changes that are placed before me and experience all the continued success & blessings in store for my life.
Kasia,
Your comments on the gift of letting go should resonate with anyone following this blog. So many of us carry a load of baggage from our past and often times we don’t even know that we don’t know that we are carrying this baggage around. So letting go of the baggage isn’t possible. Your fresh perspective will surely help anyone who reads and takes in your comments.
Thank you
I love the way this article addresses “moving on.” I have expereinced in life at times the reluctance to “move on.” I have also experienced the joy and peace that comes with “letting go”. I find that when I say no to moving on in life I am simultaneously saying no to the gifts that are waiting for me around the next corner with the opportunity that is coming to take that space in my life. When I let go and free myself of my past, which is daunting me, I am saying yes to the next gift life has to offer and all the joy, peace and love that is waiting for me there.